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I n the s, the late Stanford neuroscientist Ben Barres transitioned from female to male. He was in his 40s, mid-career, and afterward he marveled at the stark changes in his professional life. Now that society saw him as male, his ideas were taken more seriously. He was able to complete a whole sentence without being interrupted by a man.
Clinics have reported an increase in people seeking medical gender transitions in recent years, and research suggests the of people identifying as transgender has risen in the past decade. But it is not always evident when someone has undergone a transition — especially if they have gone from female to male. We spoke with four men who transitioned as adults to the bodies in which they feel more comfortable. Their experiences reveal that the gulf between how society treats women and men is in many ways as wide now as it was when Barres transitioned.
But their diverse backgrounds provide further insight into how race and ethnicity inform the gender divide in subtle and sometimes surprising ways. Professor of gender studies at California State University Stanislaus and editor of Transgress Press, which publishes books related to the transgender experience. Transitioned in The way that police officers deal with me, the way that racism undermines my ability to feel safe in the world, affects my mobility, affects where I go.
Other African American and Latino Americans grew up as boys and were taught to deal with that at an earlier age. I had to learn from my black and brown brothers about how to stay alive in my new body and retain some dignity while being demeaned by the cops. Get on the ground! You never call the police. I get pulled over a lot more now.
I got pulled over more in the first two years after my transition than I did the entire 20 years I was driving before that. In fact, when it happened in Atlanta the officer and I got into a great conversation about the Braves. Now the first two questions they ask are: Do I have any weapons in the car, and am I on parole or probation?
Race influences how people choose to transition. I did an ethnographic study of trans men and found that 96 percent of African American and Latino men want to have surgery, while only 45 percent of white respondents do. There are also ways in which men deal with sexism and gender oppression that I was not aware of when I was walking around in a female body. She started coming on to me, stalking me, sending me s and texts.
My adviser and the dean — both women — laughed it off. It went on for the better part of a year, and that was the year that I was going up for tenure. It was a very scary time. I felt very worried that if the student felt I was not returning her attentions she would claim that I had assaulted her. I felt like as a guy, I was not taken seriously. I had experienced harassment as a female person at another university and they had reacted immediately, sending a police escort with me to and from campus.
I felt like if I had still been in my old body I would have gotten a lot more support. Being a black man has changed the way I move in the world. I used to walk quickly or run to catch a bus. I am hyper-aware of making sudden or abrupt movements, especially in airports, train stations and other public places. I avoid engaging with unfamiliar white folks, especially white women. If they catch my eye, white women usually clutch their purses and cross the street. While I love urban aesthetics, I stopped wearing hoodies and traded my baggy jeans, oversized jerseys and colorful skullcaps for closefitting jeans, khakis and sweaters.
The less visible I am, the better my chances of surviving. I walked to the post office to mail some books and I put on this pound weight vest that I walk around in. Someone had seen me walking to the post office and called in and said they saw a Muslim with an explosives vest. This is a weight belt. Before, I used to feel safe going up to a police officer if I was lost or needed directions. Coast Guard veteran. Editor of anthologies about transgender men.
Started transition in P rior to my transition, I was an outspoken radical feminist. I spoke up often, loudly and with confidence. I was encouraged to speak up. I find the assertion that I am now unable to speak out on issues I find important offensive and I refuse to allow anyone to silence me. My ability to empathize has grown exponentially, because I now factor men into my thinking and feeling about situations.
Prior to my transition, I rarely considered how men experienced life or what they thought, wanted or liked about their lives. I have learned so much about the lives of men through my friendships with men, reading books and articles by and for men and through the men I serve as a d clinical social worker. Currently I work exclusively with clinical nurse case managers, but in my position, as a medical social worker working with chronically homeless military veterans — mostly male — who were grappling with substance use disorder and severe mental illness, I was one of a few men among dozens of women.
Plenty of research shows that life events, medical conditions and family circumstances impact men and women differently. But when I would suggest that patient behavioral issues like anger or violence may be a symptom of trauma or depression, it would often get dismissed or outright challenged. I do notice that some women do expect me to acquiesce or concede to them more now: Let them speak first, let them board the bus first, let them sit down first, and so on.
As a former lesbian feminist, I was put off by the way that some women want to be treated by me, now that I am a man, because it violates a foundational belief I carry, which is that women are fully capable human beings who do not need men to acquiesce or concede to them. What continues to strike me is the ificant reduction in friendliness and kindness now extended to me in public spaces.
It now feels as though I am on my own: No one, outside of family and close friends, is paying any attention to my well-being. I can recall a moment where this difference hit home. A couple of years into my medical gender transition, I was traveling on a public bus early one weekend morning. There were six people on the bus, including me. One was a woman. Not one had lifted his head to look at the woman or anyone else. W hen I began my transition at age 26, a lot of my socialization came from the guys at work. They killed all my scripts and now I have to go back and rewrite everything, blah blah blah.
By the third time, I realized you just nod. The creative department is largely male, and the guys accepted me into the club. I learned by example and modeled my professional behavior accordingly. This was a foreign concept to me. As a woman, I never felt that it was polite to do that or that I had the power to do that. But after seeing it happen all around me I decided that if I felt I deserved something I was going to ask for it too.
By doing that, I took control of my career. It was very empowering. Apparently, people were only holding the door for me because I was a woman rather than out of common courtesy as I had assumed. Not just men, women too.
I learned this the first time I left the house presenting as male, when a woman entered a department store in front of me and just let the door swing shut behind her. I was so caught off guard I walked into it face first. I remember the first time I was in a wedding as a groomsman. I was maybe three years into my transition and I was lined up for photos with all the other guys. It was not instinctive to me since I never played. The hormones made me more impatient.
I had lots of female friends and one of the qualities they loved about me was that I was a great listener. People ask if being a man made me more successful in my career. My answer is yes — but not for the reason you might think. As a man, I was finally comfortable in my own skin and that made me more confident. At work I noticed I was more direct: getting to the point, not apologizing before I said anything or tiptoeing around and trying to be delicate like I used to do. In meetings, I was more outspoken. I stopped posing my thoughts as questions. I was no longer shy about stating my opinions or defending my work.
When I gave presentations I was brighter, funnier, more engaging. Not because I was a man. Because I was happy. Project manager for Wayfair, an online home goods company. Alex is in the process of his physical transition; he did the chest surgery after college and started taking testosterone this spring.
However, I grew up in the U. When I was 15 I was attending an all-girls high school where we had to wear skirts, but I felt different from my peers. Around that point we began living with my Chinese grandfather towards the end of his life. He was so traditional and deeply set in his ways. Genetics are not in my favor for growing a lumberjack-style beard.
My voice has started cracking and becoming lower. Now, when I lead meetings, I purposefully create pauses and moments where I try to draw others into the conversation and make space for everyone to contribute and ask questions. People now assume I have logic, advice and seniority. We thought you would know. Whereas next to me, there was another successful team led by a woman, but she was never mentioned by name. When people thought I was a woman, they often gave me vague or roundabout answers when I asked a question. A part of me regrets not sharing with my grandfather who I truly am before he passed away.
I wonder how our relationship might have been different if he had known this one piece about me and had still accepted me as his grandson. Traditionally, Chinese culture sees men as more valuable than women. Before, I was the youngest granddaughter, so the least important.
I think about how he might have had different expectations or tried to instill certain traditional Chinese principles upon me more deeply, such as caring more about my grades or taking care of my siblings and elders.Ftm looking for a lady
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