I want a blowjob or a handjob

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I went on a date with a guy recently, and we started making out on his couch. I was really into him, but as his hand crept toward my skirt, I gently pushed it away. Not because I didn't want him to go there, but because all I could think was, Ohmigod, what if he wants a hand job?

The thing is, I suck at giving hand jobs. I've actually had more than one guy tell me to "just stop" because using my hand was too painful.

I want a blowjob or a handjob

And it was painful! For both of us! Because, as a grown woman, why am I still giving hand jobs? They're the worst. And, dammit, I want to do away with them completely. Hand jobs are awkward. First, there's the matter of lubrication. Hocking a loogie into my hands feels vulgar.

I want a blowjob or a handjob

Hunting for a bottle of lotion feels clumsy. And my arms. It's not like I tailor my workout routine around vigorously pumping my fist for 10 minutes. Sorry, world, no Shake Weights for this girl. Plus, I just find it a little ridiculous that I—or anyone—will tirelessly try to please her partner in a way that we all just know he can do way better himself.

Chances are this is a skill he's been honing for over a decade, and I'm not really sure I can compete with that. This isn't to say I'm entirely against foreplay. Blowjobs, on the other hand, are sexy. Your mouth has built-in lube, it's a much faster process, and as far as I can tell, guys love them more. Still, I wondered if men felt the same as I did about foreplay preferences, so I took to the ultimate, non-scientific source for all matters sexual: Tinder.

I want a blowjob or a handjob

I asked a random sampling of my matches about their thoughts on hand jobs versus blowjobs. The response was overwhelming:. The verdict is pretty obvious, but I still wasn't satisfied. I realized that even if we took hand jobs off the table, I didn't think they should necessarily be replaced by blowjobs every time.

Oral sex is just a bigger deal on the foreplay scale. If you think about it, it's even more intimate than sex in terms of face-to-genitals proximity. Plus, the submissive nature of the move calls for a level of trust and respect. Unless you're ready to commit to really liking someone, I get that a hand job keeps you at an arm's length so to speak.

Still, that doesn't make a hand job sexy in my eyes, it just makes it an awkward intermission. The thing is, it's completely possible to build up the sexual anticipation without actually rounding out the bases. When I posed this scenario to a few friends, they all agreed: The men would rather just make out than receive a high school-level hand job, and the women would like to stop pretending they're awesome at or even enjoying a task that just seems to set us up for failure.

So, screw handjobs, and screw the sexual hierarchy, too. If I want to give a blowjob instead of fumbling around in your pants, I should just go for it.

I want a blowjob or a handjob

Chances are, I still won't go south until I'm more comfortable with someone, anyway. But I'd rather enjoy kissing for a while and move to oral a little later in the game than break up a good moment with a guy by treating his penis like one of those water-filled toys you buy at the beach.

This is one job and maybe the only that I'm more than happy to hand back over to the boys. Weight Loss. United States. Type keyword s to search. Today's Top Stories. The Healthy Cooking Awards. The response was overwhelming: "Blowjobs every time. It's just science. Hands down. No pun intended. You may be able to find more information about this and similar content at piano. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below. More From Sex.

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